Wednesday, 6 May 2015

Pro's and Con's

So I am going to write Pro's and Con's about the relationship. I seem to keep reminiscing about mine and Danny's time together. But I know I keep thinking about the good and not the bad. I think I need to make myself think about the bad as well. Maybe it'll help me get over him quicker? Golly Gosh I hope so.

Pros

- He would spoil me; he would buy me a lot of gifts and take me out to lunch a lot.
- We were incredibly comfortable with each other;
- Sleeping next to someone every night was nice;
- Doing stuff for him was nice.
- He would take care of my car for me.
- He would help me out money wise if I needed it.
- When I was at school, he used to drop me off at school and pick me up.
- He loved my pets.
- The sex was good. He was never ever selfish in bed.
- He was good at cooking.
- He would kiss me goodbye every morning before he went to work, and kiss me every time he came home.
- His family was my family.
- We told each other everything.
- We were faithful.
- The beginning of the relationship was absolutely amazing.
- I love his mum as if she were my mum.
- We had engagement and wedding plans.
- We saw a future together.

Cons

- He stopped initiating sex, I was always initiating it.
- He never kissed me randomly.
- He said if I ever got pregnant and wouldn't get rid of it, he would leave me.
- He got angry at me very easily.
- He was selfish with the radio.
- He never surprised me with a birthday/christmas gift. I always had to tell him what I wanted.
- He didn't organise anything for our 3 year anniversary.
- He didn't get me anything for valentines day, i got him something.
- Before we were living together, he used to ALWAYS be late to pick me up or come over.
- He would get angry at me if I didn't clean the bedroom.
- He never said he loved me, unless I said it first (towards the end of the relationship)
- He told me a couple of months ago that he wasn't attracted to me anymore.
- He would harass me to go running or to the gym and made me feel guilty when I didn't.
- He tried to control what I eat.
- Problems with his family is actually ridiculous. They don't involve me. But their problems complicate everything.
- His dog would shit on the driveway and he didn't clean it up.
- When he first moved in, he didn't pay rent or towards food because he would clean up the house a lot. When he stopped doing that stuff, dad asked me to ask him to pay $100 a week towards food. It was a mission and a half to get him to start doing that.
- He wouldn't pay his rent on time, or he would not pay it at all, just because.
- He kept buying fucking cars! He had 3 fucking cars filling up my driveway.
- He was an idiot with money. E.g. wasting virtually all of his pay on cars and not saving for the future (a house).
- I never understood his logic. He had no logic.
- Some of the things he would say to my family were so idiotic it was embarrassing.
- His sense of humour was stupid
- When my grandfather was in hospital and we thought he would die, Danny didn't offer to come and visit him with me. And when I did ask him to come visit him with me, he said he can't because he needs to go to gym. Fucking arsehole.
- He would turn every stupid little thing into a fight, instead of just admitting his mistakes.
- I have nothing in common or nothing to talk about with his friends. They are all a bunch of dead beats.
- He didn't enjoy or want to hang out with my friends.
- He's my height, I can't wear heels.
- He left me the day before dad moved to Gove.
- He didn't last long when having sex.
- He got stupid haircuts.
- He didn't lift much of a finger around the house, but expected me to.


Now I realise that there are A LOT of cons. As stupid as some of them might be.

I am starting to feel happy that I am not in this relationship anymore.

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