Thursday, 28 March 2019

Don't end your story;

I know what it feels like to want to take your own life. Believe me, I get it. That feeling of overwhelming sadness. You feel such immense physical pain that's just trapped inside your body and it cannot get out. "How can I keep living like this? I don't want to live like this" you think to yourself. You think no one cares, or that no one cares enough, or the person that you want to care, doesn't. And my god in hurts, it hurts so much it consumes you. You leave subtle hints to see if someone reaches out, but they don't. You start to make plans. Weighing out the pros and cons of each method. "Which method will kill me the quickest, the least painful? Or the most painful?" these thoughts go through your head for days, weeks even. "I don't deserve to live" is the thought that comes into your head when you're nearly at your lowest. It's so scares you but at the same time you just want the pain to stop.

Believe me I get it. 

I have also seen the devastation that suicide causes. It doesn't just affect your immediate family. It affects your friends, your colleagues, the people that find you. It affects the students of the school and university you went to, your neighbours. Anyone who had crossed your path, it hurts. That childhood friend you had that you eventually grew distant from? She's at your funeral, consumed with sadness, wishing she never lost contact, wishing she was a better friend. Your mother is crying so hard she can barely walk. Your teacher wishes she picked up the signs. Your friends wish they noticed the subtle hints, and blames themselves. 

Don't choose to end your story. There is always a reason to live. Even if it is just one reason. Find that reason and hold onto it. Hold it so tight your knuckles go white. Even if you think there's no reason there is. I promise you, you just need to find it. And in your overwhelming pain, think of that reason to keep you going think of it every day, every hour. You'll get through. It gets better. Just keep holding onto that reason. Reach out to your family and friends, even if you haven't spoken to them in years. They care! They do. Don't say they don't care, you haven't tried telling them what's going on. Cry out your pain, let it out. Do it everyday if you have to. Don't hold it in.

You'll get through, you'll feel better. I promise you. Don't end your story;

#semicolonproject


Saturday, 10 November 2018

Pros and Cons

Pros
- We got along so well
- He was a kind person
- He would help fix my car
- I am pregnant with his child
- We both love adventures
- He is a very clean person
- cuddling him feels nice
- Sex used to be good
- Comfortable with my body around him
- Generally comfortable with him.
- I truely loved him, with all my heart
- I was genuinely happy with him
- He is respectful
- He hasn't slept with many girls which I liked
- Spends a lot of time with me
- fills up my car & cleans car for me
- I love his family
- Doesn't drink/smoke etc
- Normally would do what I ask him to do when I need help with something etc.

Cons
- He was a financial strain - always quitting jobs, spending savings. I was the one usually paying for everything and saving for our future.
- Quits everything he starts - his apprenticeship, jobs, studies. Blames it on anxiety and then does nothing about it.
- Never initiates sex, barely ever wants to have sex with me and when he does it is always on a Sunday and it's boring. I have a higher sex drive then him.
- Stopped telling me that I am beautiful
- Abandons me and his baby at 30 weeks pregnant.
- Sick of asking for sex and getting rejected all the time.
- Would rather watch TV then talk to me.
- Constantly harassing me to borrow money to buy a car
- Telling me to return to work quickly after baby is born so that he can get his car...
- Not even doing the right thing by me and my baby and paying me back for my furniture
- Never kisses me, holds hands or show affection first. I always have to initiate.
- Wastes money on take-away because he is so fussy with food
- So fussy with food! I find it embarrassing when he tries to avoid eating most things at family functions
- Always wants to go to the same restaurants and eat the same food.
- Emotionally cheated on me with a 31 year old woman WHO HAS MET ME AND KNEW I WAS PREGNANT WITH HIS BABY! Fucking home wrecker.
- Didn't want to or like taking photos with me often.
- Has no drive or ambition to be successful - he just wants an easy job that will pay well.
- He left so easily after one fight & didn't even bother trying to work on our relationship, not even for the sake of our family.
- Treating me like shit after our fight, calling me pathetic etc.


Monday, 29 October 2018

Second heartbreak.

well here I am back again 4 years later. Since the last time I blogged I got into a relationship with a man named Scott. I loved him with all my heart and soul. We got engaged and I thought he was going to be my forever. We moved to Melbourne and I got pregnant. We were excited for the baby and I was so happy to start a family with him. When I was 29 weeks pregnant we had a fight. Our first huge fight. He broke up with me. I tried to give him space and hope that he would change his mind and that he was just scared. 2 weeks of space and the decision to break up is his final decision. I tried begging and pleading to work on our relationship and he didn’t want to.

I am absolutely devastated. I feel like I can’t breathe, and because I’m pregnant I feel like I’m trapped. I cannot even comprehend what is happening. I don’t even understand why it is happening.

I am also having horrible feelings towards my baby. I don’t like him anymore, I don’t want to. I even looked up foods to eat that could harm him. I feel like a terrible person.

Wednesday, 2 September 2015

Housemate Horrors

I cant stand my housemate because:

- She is a slob
- She doesn't clean up after herself
- She didn't contribute to any house cleaning
- She brought a dog home without asking and didn't toilet train it
- She didn't clean up her dogs shit in the lounge.
- She left crumbs all over the kitchen bench
- She would leave dishes for DAYS
- She never put the dishes away
- She uses my stuff (soap, washing powder, food etc) and does not contribute to the cost of replacing it.
- She never paid her rent on time
- She leaves washing on the line for weeks
- She would leave her washing in the machine for days
- I did so much for her and not once did I get a thank you
- She just uses people
- She is immature
- Her boyfriend could do sooooo much better

I CANT STAND HER AND IM SO GLAD SHE WILL BE MOVED OUT BY TOMORROW

Tuesday, 7 July 2015

Confused Feelings

So I have been seeing this guy for a while. He is amazing. I never knew that someone could actually treat me so well. I can't describe how he makes me feel. He makes me feel beautiful, worthy, special. I have never felt that way with Danny, well at least not for a long time.

But, he wants a relationship... For some reason I don't want one. And its hurting him that I don't want one yet. But I am not ready. And I am unsure how I feel. Sometimes I feel like I really like him and other times I feel like I don't.

#feelingssuck

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Update..

So I haven't blogged in a while.. I have been pretty busy with friends, family and Uni.

So I haven't thought about Danny in a while. Well I've thought about him, but I don't miss him or want him back, thats for sure. I think someone new has helped in that department.

At Bass in the Grass about a month ago (a month after Danny and I broke up) I slept with someone else. He was my friend and we went to school together and we used to hang out a bit (as friends). Sleeping with him helped me a lot to get over Danny I found... Like Danny is no longer the one and only person I've been with in that way. The sex wasn't good that night, I think we were both pretty wasted.

It didn't stop there though. During the week he kept coming over and we kept hooking up. The sex was amazing. Like AMAZING! Best I've ever had to be honest!! And I thought that this would be just a friends with benefits thing.

He developed feelings for me first and he told a mutual friend, who told me. I didn't start to like him until a week after that. But even then I was confused with my feelings. I thought I might be trying to replace Danny somehow. I still feel like that sometimes I guess. I don't want him to be a rebound, and I really feel like that he's not.

So we've been seeing each other for about a month now, he wants a relationship, but I said no for now. But I can definitely see us together in the future :)

Wednesday, 20 May 2015

Random thoughts...

So Danny has slept with someone else. 2 weeks after we had broken up. She's 30 and from what I see on her Facebook, she's fat as well. It's kind of funny at the same time because she is 8 years older than him and well.. she's bigger than me. After all the times he put me down about my weight its funny that he can sleep with someone else who's twice my size... Maybe she's skinner than she is in the photos. I don't know. It makes me feel better knowing that she's fat.

It still hurts though. Like how could he sleep with someone else so easily? He lost his virginity to me and spent 4 years with me and he can sleep with someone else 2 weeks after we broke up? Like our love meant nothing?

The thought of me sleeping with someone else actually makes me feel sick. I feel like I should sleep with someone else, just to get rid of that feeling that he's slept with someone else and I haven't..

I feel horrible about it. But I feel okay about us separating at the same time.

My counsellor said that in 6 months time he might try and get me back (apparently thats what a lot of men do after dumping their missus)

I am not going to hold on to that, hoping he does that. I need to work on myself.

Speaking of myself. I've lost 10kilos. I've lost it way to quickly though, and I know it. But I kinda like that I've been losing it quickly. That scares me. I've been loosing it quickly because I haven't been eating much at all. I tried to eat a decent meal tonight but and I had like 4 spoonfuls and I was full.

I wake up in the morning and I don't eat because I just think it'll make me fat and that no one will want me. I need to stop this mind frame. But every time I go on the scales and see that I've dropped another kilo. Man it feels good.

I'll try and eat a little more tomorrow...